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Bk Ray

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Whats the crack?

Snogging someone - no?

Sleeping with someone -no?

Dancing in a group - yes?

Is it ok for you to dance with someone? Is it ok for them to dance with someone?

Ball room dancing - yes?

Bump n grind - no?

Somewhere in the middle?

Pictures on facebook - does that change anything?





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zvelf


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I'm assuming that you're talking about behavior of a married person? It depends on what your goal is. If it's to get divorced, you can go about it one way. If you don't want to get into an argument with your spouse, you can go about it in another way. In any case, what you want to happen as a result of your behavior determines whether these behaviors are okay or not and that should be pretty obvious once you've decided on what you want.



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The Black Guardian

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    Whats the crack?

Huh?


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    Snogging someone - no?
    Sleeping with someone -no?
    Dancing in a group - yes?

Indeed.

Well, you mean sex with someone. There have been times when she's literally slept with someone, and it was cool.


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    Is it ok for you to dance with someone? Is it ok for them to dance with someone?

It's generally not okay for me to dance with ANYBODY. That's how people get hurt and destruction happens. I've been known to destroy things simply by walking within 2 meters of them. Cats? They fall on their backs in my presence. Call me Mr. Jinx.


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    Ball room dancing - yes?
    Bump n grind - no?
    Somewhere in the middle?

You didn't ask the right questions!

Family? Probably carte blanche; we are not candidates for Maury or *shudders* Springer.

Um... not sure if Brits will get that reference. They are both talk show hosts that focus on extremely dysfunctional families/relationships.

Male or Female? Same sex: carte blanche. In fact, usually when she's dancing, she's with other women, bumping/grinding/whatever. I'm not even 100% sure if I'd object to snogging. >:)

Is it someone I know? She's perfectly "allowed" to dance however she feels with someone I know while I'm present, and probably even when I'm not. I fully trust all parties involved, even her ex (who is one of my best friends). Even that friend who flirts with anything in a bra... or out of a bra.


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    Pictures on facebook - does that change anything?

For us, this is sorted. As far as both of us know, zero pictures of us are on any social media.

Basically, it all comes down to how much I trust the person she's with. I trust her completely, implicitly, to Infinity and Beyond! Family? Friends? I trust all of them, or at the very least, I trust her response to all of them. If this wasn't true, we wouldn't be associating.

I mean... there have been times in the past where us friends... well... body shots? Very possible. It means nothing. But we're in our 50s now, so we haven't really done this in a while.

What's questionable is a stranger's response and misinterpretation of her actions. She can be touchy-feely and it not mean anything. Will the other person realize this is the question. Generally, I think so, but there's always that chance...


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Trent Trueheart


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I don't see nothing wrong with a little bump and grind.


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bd2999


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It depends on the status of the two. I would generally say that it depends. Who is the person that they are dancing with? Do both parties know them? How are they dancing? Just the casual dance is fine but there are many that have a fair bit of sexuality involved. That would depend on the couple.

Most dancing would probably be ok, but it is usually safer to not cause a potential problem in the first place. People take things differently and something can be done innocently, but be taken wrong too.

Better to be on the safe side IMO.




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MysteryMan


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Sorry for formatting response Spam blocker going crazy again for me here
Not 100% clear on these questions without more background but...

kiss and caress amorously? - heck no...unless maybe its a girl she's bringing back home \:P

Most cases nooooooo

Easily yes assuming pg-13 dancing

Usually have been the case that I or she could dance with others.

Yes to ballroom

Bump-n-grind
Strangers (unless another hot chick ;P) no
Non-strangers/friends goofing around sure why not (if you mean dancing not sex)
Very much a slider based on actions, who it is and so on

Pictures on facebook - does that change anything?

It's evidence...lol
It's also a factor of did they post it or did it get posted by someone else and they didn't want it posted.




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Bk Ray

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Body shots tho?





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Bk Ray

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Yeah, that's what I thought. Her mate was going nuts and her husband (good bloke) was going mental at us.

Damn hippy.





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Bk Ray

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    Sorry for formatting response Spam blocker going crazy again for me here
    Not 100% clear on these questions without more background but...



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    kiss and caress amorously? - heck no...unless maybe its a girl she's bringing back home \:P



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    Most cases nooooooo



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    Easily yes assuming pg-13 dancing



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    Usually have been the case that I or she could dance with others.



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    Yes to ballroom



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    Bump-n-grind
    Strangers (unless another hot chick ;P) no
    Non-strangers/friends goofing around sure why not (if you mean dancing not sex)
    Very much a slider based on actions, who it is and so on



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    Pictures on facebook - does that change anything?



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    It's evidence...lol
    It's also a factor of did they post it or did it get posted by someone else and they didn't want it posted.


Posted by the club. Then some gormless friend who doesn't really know either of us tagging us both in. Hypothetically speaking.





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The Black Guardian

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Back in the day, sure. But it loses its appeal after you turn 40 or so.

And my apologies for Springer. \:\)


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MysteryMan


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Then its a little worse. As they hid their behavior (if it crossed the line). But good because you know now what they have been keeping hidden.



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MysteryMan


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Well your in trouble if you did the bump in grind and they caught it on camera...did you at least use protection? ;P


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The Black Guardian

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Wait! Protection? I thought "bump and grind" meant a dance move.


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MysteryMan


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    Wait! Protection? I thought "bump and grind" meant a dance move.


It might...but the normal slang for it is sex. I think it can be both.


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Bk Ray

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but nah, I didn't bang her





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MysteryMan


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Bump and Grind or bump-and-grind refer to various kinds of rough movement, e.g., kayaking through rapids, aggressive car racing, a slang term for sexual intercourse, etc. In particular, the terms may refer to one of the following: A country/western line dance. Grinding (dance)

So yeah both.

But I could see someone being upset depending on the circumstances.


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The Black Guardian

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      Wait! Protection? I thought "bump and grind" meant a dance move.



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    It might...but the normal slang for it is sex. I think it can be both.

In my experience, it's almost always just dancing.


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