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The Black Guardian

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Bk Ray

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Subj: Re: So....partner dancing with another person when drunk and on a night out. Ok?
Posted: Wed Dec 13, 2017 at 08:34:41 am EST (Viewed 280 times)
Reply Subj: So....partner dancing with another person when drunk and on a night out. Ok?
Posted: Tue Dec 12, 2017 at 04:24:23 pm EST (Viewed 325 times)

    Whats the crack?


    Snogging someone - no?
    Sleeping with someone -no?
    Dancing in a group - yes?


Well, you mean sex with someone. There have been times when she's literally slept with someone, and it was cool.

    Is it ok for you to dance with someone? Is it ok for them to dance with someone?

It's generally not okay for me to dance with ANYBODY. That's how people get hurt and destruction happens. I've been known to destroy things simply by walking within 2 meters of them. Cats? They fall on their backs in my presence. Call me Mr. Jinx.

    Ball room dancing - yes?
    Bump n grind - no?
    Somewhere in the middle?

You didn't ask the right questions!

Family? Probably carte blanche; we are not candidates for Maury or *shudders* Springer.

Um... not sure if Brits will get that reference. They are both talk show hosts that focus on extremely dysfunctional families/relationships.

Male or Female? Same sex: carte blanche. In fact, usually when she's dancing, she's with other women, bumping/grinding/whatever. I'm not even 100% sure if I'd object to snogging. >:)

Is it someone I know? She's perfectly "allowed" to dance however she feels with someone I know while I'm present, and probably even when I'm not. I fully trust all parties involved, even her ex (who is one of my best friends). Even that friend who flirts with anything in a bra... or out of a bra.

    Pictures on facebook - does that change anything?

For us, this is sorted. As far as both of us know, zero pictures of us are on any social media.

Basically, it all comes down to how much I trust the person she's with. I trust her completely, implicitly, to Infinity and Beyond! Family? Friends? I trust all of them, or at the very least, I trust her response to all of them. If this wasn't true, we wouldn't be associating.

I mean... there have been times in the past where us friends... well... body shots? Very possible. It means nothing. But we're in our 50s now, so we haven't really done this in a while.

What's questionable is a stranger's response and misinterpretation of her actions. She can be touchy-feely and it not mean anything. Will the other person realize this is the question. Generally, I think so, but there's always that chance...

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