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neil

Subj: Re: Issue with my Best friend and Roomate...
Posted: Mon Dec 03, 2007 at 08:17:47 pm EST
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Posted: Mon Dec 03, 2007 at 06:04:46 pm EST

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> Well anyway, Gina broke up with Jeff for Steve, but told Jeff that it was due to her being unhappy in the relationship (a bs reason) and is now sorta together with my Steve (he's been basically living at her dorm for the past week).

While my response amounts to 'say nothing', I'm not one of those 'it's none of your business' people. I'm of the mind that friends look out for friends when necessary - I just don't think that it's necessary in this situation.

So lemme get all of this straight: Gina broke up with Jeff before anything physical happened between Gina and Steve? You can't really blame Gina for her feelings changing or for becoming interested in someone else, nor do I think you can blame Steve for becoming interested in his friend's girlfriend - it's not like we can consciously decide to be attracted to someone or not, can we? So what is it that you're blaming her for? Because it seems to me that breaking up with Jeff - rather than lying and going behind his back - is actually the opposite of sleazy. She could have been more honest in her reasons for breaking up with him, maybe, but if that honesty would hurt Jeff then why do that?

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> > Well anyway, Gina broke up with Jeff for Steve, but told Jeff that it was due to her being unhappy in the relationship (a bs reason) and is now sorta together with my Steve (he's been basically living at her dorm for the past week).
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> While my response amounts to 'say nothing', I'm not one of those 'it's none of your business' people. I'm of the mind that friends look out for friends when necessary - I just don't think that it's necessary in this situation.
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> So lemme get all of this straight: Gina broke up with Jeff before anything physical happened between Gina and Steve? You can't really blame Gina for her feelings changing or for becoming interested in someone else, nor do I think you can blame Steve for becoming interested in his friend's girlfriend - it's not like we can consciously decide to be attracted to someone or not, can we? So what is it that you're blaming her for? Because it seems to me that breaking up with Jeff - rather than lying and going behind his back - is actually the opposite of sleazy. She could have been more honest in her reasons for breaking up with him, maybe, but if that honesty would hurt Jeff then why do that?

I agree. Gina was with Jeff, and she wasn't happy. Rather than stay in an unhappy relationship she ended it and found someone else. So maybe she started realizing this attraction to Steve while she was still with Jeff. All the more reason to break it off with Jeff as quickly as possible. Staying with him when she knew it wouldn't work, going behind his back, leading him on, spending his money, etc. would have been the sleazy thing to do. Unless you're saying she did that for a long while before breaking it off.





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