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Bk Ray
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Subj: Why are you friends with this person? Do they contribute anything?
Posted: Fri May 25, 2018 at 10:09:03 pm CDT (Viewed 540 times)
Reply Subj: Friends who never pay thier way.
Posted: Sat May 19, 2018 at 03:02:06 am CDT (Viewed 821 times)

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I have a friend R who is cheap, there's been a few things.

We arranged to go out for a few beers. K and I got a call from R asking us to meet him at the door of the bar. They were charging 50p to get in the door (about 35 to 40 cents). R didn't have any money on him.

I gave him the 50p and asked him why he was going on a night out without any money. K had just brought a round and as I turned around R had lit up a cigarette in a no smoking pub. R got kicked out the pub and was telling us that he we needed to leave. I told him to wait and that we were drinking the pints first.

Whenever we go out, he always hides or goes home when it is his round.

My wife and I went around for a chinese takeaway. I ordered a curry, rice, the wife sweet and sour chicken, rice etc. R and his wife then ordered their stuff. After paying our bills, then said it would be a good idea if we mixed it all up for a buffet. Rather naively, I agreed (this was the first time, they had met my wife, she was my GF at this point), so I didn't push the issue.

It came in and there were the meals my wife and I had ordered. The rest of it was stuff we didn't like, vegetable rolls, cheap stuff of the menu and wasn't appetising.

When everyone had eaten, our food had been eaten and the leftovers were what they had ordered (so they didn't even like the food they had ordered). Afterwards, we went and got something to eat afterwards.

After this, I priced up what they had ordered and they had ordered the cheapest food on the menu. So food they didn't like, so they could eat our food which we had paid for.

Next time they asked again and I repeatedly said we would order our food and eat our food, as I didn't like their food. I repeated this 3 times, with R saying 'we get it' and the wife telling me to stop going on. We ordered similarly to what we had done before.

The food came and everyone stared at me, whilst I took my curry out. I literally put half the rice on my plate, followed by about 3 quarters of the curry on my plate. R screamed 'you selfish bas!!d' at me. I said to him, 'did I need to say it 4 times, you eat what you order'. The wife offered her food to them and I said no, whilst R ate his vegetables.

Am I being unfair? Why order food you don't like?



Since you are posting the same issue about the same person several years apart it sounds like an ongoing problem that is really bothering you.

So, I can't help but wonder why you are friends with this person. It sounds like they are a financial parasite that do nothing but annoy you. Can you count on them to help you out in non-monetary ways if needed like give you a ride or help you move?

You are not being unfair. Once something is agreed upon by all parties that is that. He shoudn[t expect you to change your mind or pay for things you have made clear you are not going to pay for or not going to do.

Is there some reason why R doesn't pay for things? Honest lack of means or just cheap?


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